My brain hurts.
Everything hurts.
I am not sure why.
It’s not sick hurt.
It’s like I slept on my back hurt in a strange way.
But I slept like a baby, like a tired baby with hot milk in its belly.
In my own bed for the first time in eight days.
I remember putting my head on the pillow and rolling over and I was out.
I mean.
OUT.
I woke up to go to the loo at some point.
I think.
I mean, I usually do, as I like to have a cup of tea before I hit the hay, but I don’t even remember if I did, it was just an assumption.
I woke up when my alarm went off and got moving.
Now that I remember it, I did feel sore when I woke up, but I think I just shrugged it off.
And perhaps it’s tension or psycho-somatic, or who knows, I certainly don’t have to figure it out, but it is certainly there.
And there is no sleeping in my sweet, cozy, dreamy little studio tonight.
No.
I have made my return to Glen Ellen, to Stone Tree, to a week of being in Sonoma, but instead of being in Petaluma, I am at work.
The family’s vacation spot for the summer.
It’s not a bad bed and fuck, the room I have is huge, I mean, really gigantic.
Bigger than my in-law, that’s for certain.
It’s just not my bed.
I will be wrangling up some ibuprofen in a little while, after I blog and make a cup of tea and I think, yes, an episode of Mr. Robot.
I tried to do some Burning Man stuff, order a few last minute things, but I found I didn’t have the focus in me to do so.
I just paid my phone bill and that was all the online activity I could handle, no Amazon shopping for me tonight.
I made it out here ok, although there was a bit of a miscommunication between me and the mom and I didn’t realize that I didn’t have to lock up the house after letting in the housekeeper.
So I was in and around the Mission for many unnecessary hours.
That being said, I made an appearance at one of many fine church basements in the Mission and got right with God.
I figured, a week out of town, a week away from my fellows, from my favorite cafes and food and San Francisco, from my bed, my home, my things, was going to warrant a little getting steady with my emotional, mental, and spiritual needs.
I will be getting compensated for the additional money I had to spend on the rental car, which is nice, but I haven’t had the opportunity to speak with the parents about it.
The conversation happened via text this morning while I was at the house waiting for the cleaner to show up.
And today when I got there.
Well.
I was too busy catching up with the boys who wouldn’t let go of me.
Dinner was had with one leaned against me and the other in my lap, there was no removing myself.
The youngest was such a little darling, he was napping when I showed up and dad had to run to town on an errand, the older boy and mom were out, and it was just the little guy and me and the dog.
Said dog who was so happy to see me it made my heart warm and fuzzy.
When he woke up, the look on his face, incredulous joy.
“Surprise,” I said softly, touching his sweet face, and wiping his little sweaty brow.
He sleeps hot.
“Carmen! Oh, Carmen, I missed you, I want to go pick tomatoes with you in the garden and make you a salad,” he said all warm and soft and cuddly and my god, my heart.
So much.
So much love.
He crawled into my arms and wrapped himself around me and told me how much he missed me and how much he loved me, and then he took my hand and we walked to the garden and picked tomatoes off the vine and fresh basil.
When the oldest boy got back, he proudly showed me all the places they had picked blackberries and then insisted that we go back up to the garden and pick even more tomatoes, because he too, missed me, loved me, and wanted to make me a tomato salad.
They remembered from last year.
The tomatoes were out of hand and I probably ate two or three each meal, mostly chopped up with sea salt and olive oil, black pepper, lemon balm (it’s a type of herb), oregano, and fresh basil, splash of balsamic and I am a very happy girl.
Both the boys helped me make the salad and then they both ate out of my bowl and dredged their fingers through the olive oil and vinegar and ate bites of grilled chicken off my plate and just were relentless with touching me, cuddling with me, sitting on me.
“Carmen,” the oldest boy whispered to me, “please massage my back again,” he said, then tugged on my hand, when I had stopped to take a bite of dinner.
I melted, just a little bit.
Ok.
A lot bit.
We sat chair to chair and while his brother basically licked the bowl clean, I rubbed his shoulders and told him about my graduate school adventures and the animals I saw at the institute–hawks, the deer, the does and their fawns, the jack rabbit in the grass, the ears so high and big.
I tried to get a photograph of it, it was just huge, but it loped off into the high grass before I was able to get my phone up and open to the camera.
After dinner, which began to devolve, I think the eldest has a bit of a cold he’s struggling with, I let the boys smack me with pillows.
I had a sense that though they were not necessarily mad at me, there was a need to be a little aggressive with their feelings, get out some of the consternation and energy from not getting to see each other for the two weeks I was away from them.
They had missed me and they had feelings around it and they needed to express that too, not just the snuggly love stuff, which not withstanding was divine to experience, so a pillow fight ensued.
And it was absolutely the best.
I set a timer and let them hit me with pillows for three minutes solid without defending myself or hitting them back with the couch pillows.
It was so much fun.
The giggles.
Mine and theirs.
Then, when the alarm rang, we all just collapsed in a heap on the couch and snuggled more.
I was with them far past what should have been my end of day, but I couldn’t resist catching up and re-connecting.
I’ll be here until Friday.
Drive back into SF in the evening then have the weekend in town.
I’ve got some organizing to do in regards to Burning Man, then depending on what next week looks like, I’ll be heading back to Glenn Ellen in the evening on Sunday, I think, for one more week of summer vacation travel nanny fun.
Then off to Burning Man next Friday.
Oof.
Not quite ready yet.
But not really able to do anything more tonight.
Too tired to figure it out right now.
Time for Mr. Robot, I’m into the second season now, cup of tea, apple, bed.
Night y’all.
See you on the flip.