And writing you poetry in my head.
It has been a long time since I have felt the prompt to write my blog.
Of course you came up with a solution.
One so simple and elegant that I felt momentarily abashed to not have thought of it myself.
Use a Word Document, write the blog, then cut and paste the Word document to your blog.
Smacks self on head.
I still had some push-back, I like the way it feels to be in the blog space.
Aside.
I know using the terminology, “blog” is anachronistic.
But so it goes.
I am a heavily tattooed, anti-conformist who is polite to a point, sets an alarm to get up, thanks the crossing guard at the crosswalk, still sends out thank you cards and birthday cards in the mail.
And holiday cards.
And buys stamps.
And yeah, so blog, blog, blog, not essay, not article, not whatever else is the new slangy vernacular out there.
End aside.
I am writing.
When I had the push-back it went something like, well, I like the format, I understand the feel, it elicits a kind of experience that I don’t have when I am in Word.
Yet.
Here I am.
And yes.
It is not quite the same. But it is not too different.
Using the Word Doc also gives me the experience that I have been struggling with in WordPress.
There is a glitch in the format which does not let me type fast, or backspace to delete.
The longer the blog, the slower it gets, until I am typing at a glacial pace.
I type almost as fast as I think.
What you, dear reader, are getting, is nearly a stream of conscious experience when I write.
Sure.
I go back and I edit a touch, but not that much.
I like how it feels, like I am having a conversation with you in real time and just letting the thoughts drop onto the page.
The reason I have been wanting to blog more is to refresh my writing chops.
I am working on putting together a book from my dissertation.
I am working on letting go of the judgment that two years after the oral defense I have not written the book.
Oh.
There have been iterations and ideas and I have sketched things out, had conversations with my best friends, journaled, thought, paced, even cried in frustration.
Before, not so gently, resigning that I either had nothing to write, it wasn’t the right time, circumstance, idea.
Then finding my way back in, feeling inspired, feeling heat, feeling like, oh! I’ve got this, here it is! Compelling myself with projects and incentives and dancing around the project like a manic Maypole dancer in spring intoxicated with the first soft white bell lilies of the valley flowering in the grass.
Big sigh.
And then I would stop.
And sit.
And perseverate.
And step slowly and quietly back into a state of judgment.
Funny thing this.
I forget, thank you to my therapist, that the art is sometimes, oft times, a process.
And I needed, desperately, to rest, to recoup, to heal.
For six and a half years I worked full time and carried anywhere from one to four, to five jobs and did graduate school full time.
I did not have days off.
I did not have good rest.
I was locked and bound into a kind of relentless frame that had nothing but work and school and occasional recovery meetings interspersed.
I was grinding.
I cried a lot.
I stuffed a lot of feelings and just pushed, pushed, pushed through.
Oh.
And there was that pandemic thing that happened too.
Good grief.
I just needed to rest.
I also started my own business.
I also did extraordinary, and painful, therapy work of my own, aside from being a therapist.
Art takes time.
And practice.
And I have been plotting my return.
Once I was gentle to myself, acknowledged that I had to rebuild the reserves, find the space, sit in the sun, read fiction (oh fiction, you balm to the soul), hang with friends, open myself up to actually being available to a loving romantic relationship and then sit in the sun some more, did it quietly come forward.
I am a writer.
I have always been a writer.
I will always be a writer.
And I have never stopped writing.
I just stopped posting.
Graduate school, work, teaching, the pandemic, my own therapy work (which continues apace, I am not done), transitions, so many things, all the things, they were not holding me back, but they crowded the playing field.
I feel that it has cleared a bit.
I feel rested, even when I am deep in the therapeutic space and holding a strong container for my clients, the grief of the world, the pain writ on the global stage.
I can still come home to fresh flowers in a vase.
Hot soup in a bowl.
French music on the speaker in my kitchen.
I can light candles.
Pet my cats.
Sit on the couch and resource.
My book project is coming.
In fact.
Many book projects are coming.
Poetry.
A collection of blogs, ahem, “essays”.
Heh.
Restructuring my memoir.
I am thinking of fictionalizing it a bit and self-publishing.
I am not sure if admitting to fictionalizing it on this platform is actually being transparent or silly, but whatever.
I do try very hard to be aware of my impact in the world, on my family, on my friends, on my people, on my person.
Sometimes.
I think.
I worry too much of what others will think.
Then I get angry and say, fuck that, this is my space.
My head, my heart, my words, my process.
Messy.
Beautiful.
At times artless pain.
But I know when it feels right and good and this it does.
Even when it’s not quite the frame that I want it to be.
This gets me back to the page and damn.
It feels real good.
Real, real, real.
Good.
I will take it.
And the poem that I was noodling with is not quite ready to be birthed here, but it is here.
In my heart.
A line of words, like a bright cloud underlit by the setting sun.
Waiting to come forward into the world.
Like the aftermath of love.
Mayhem and reckoning.
A bright augury.
Star burst from a crucible of torture that I walked through to get from here.
To there.
Come now.
Follow me, dear heart.
We are back in it.
Yes.
We are.
Come, give me your hand.
We have places to go.
If you will let me take you with, I will not let you down.
Promise.